Readers, I Hug You

8 Oct

Hello! Madeline here.  I’m on my way to the NJ Put Your Heart In a Book conference at the end of the week, but I’d like to take a moment to share with you some feedback that we’ve gotten about Lady Smut.  A reader of our blog says:

“What I like is that it offers an intelligent, frank and fearless discussion of the erotic side of romance without stooping to crassness.  The things that turn me off about erotica are the terms and the writing style.  They feel guttural to me, and I feel dirty (in a bad way) when I read those type of books.

Some of the blogs I’ve read on erotica do the same. There’s no finesse, just crassness. Sort of like a Howard Stern in writing. (I’m not a fan. He might be funny to some, but  he just grosses me out. I can’t get past it to hear what he’s saying.)

The “Ladies Smut,” as I said, don’t shy away from topics but they present their arguments in a more genteel manner, if that makes sense. So the reader can actually think about what they’re saying without having to navigate all the crudeness and “shock appeal.” I suppose that’s the “lady” part…right?  🙂

Anyway, that’s my take on it. I have a feeling you’ll really take off!”

This feedback warmed the cockles of my heart.  I feel passionate about planting our Lady Smut flag in a place where women can –as she so eloquently said– “engage in an intelligent, frank, and fearless discussion of the erotic side of romance” without treading into the ish and ick factor.  (Or at least if we do, to openly admit that that’s how we feel about it.)

While some women want a more woman-user-friendly version of porn–in tone, I mean, and in the objectification of others [though you could have a big old long debate about just how to define this] that’s not my thing at all.   Nor is crassness.  (I’m not talking about crass characters, or a crass sense of humor, I’m talking about “I spell checked it once, now buy it, bitch” crass writing–a very different thing.) It just doesn’t do it for me, and I believe there are a LOT of women out there who feel the same way.

Hot sex is amazing, of course, even when it sometimes comes without commitment and with a totally independent spirit.  Yet what really lights our hearts at Lady Smut is romance & sex together in just the right way.  Erotic romance, for us, is when the brain and the heart are every bit as engaged as the lady bits.  That’s not to say that we won’t discuss the less romance-y erotica from time to time as we stumble over it, or like the topic, or love the writing, or must exclaim about some aspect of it, etc.

Yet we promise you, dear reader, to engage your heart and mind–and hopefully your sense of humor–every time we share with you the delicious gems of desire we find out in the big wide world and to explore what the best erotic romance books can offer readers today.

4 Responses to “Readers, I Hug You”

  1. elizabethshore October 9, 2012 at 1:04 pm #

    It’s always nice when readers stop by and leave comments. You’ve been active on our blog, Ella, and we appreciate it. And Madeline, thanks for sharing those comments. It’s nice to know that what we’re saying is resonating with readers!


  2. Liz Everly October 8, 2012 at 5:47 pm #

    I love this reader! Thanks so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response to our blog.


  3. madelineiva October 8, 2012 at 3:15 pm #

    I hear you! I winced especially at the ‘p’ word when I started writing erotic romance. It’s almost like you could divide erotic romance into two parts — one without strong language for the lady-bits, with basic sex acts, and with a lot o plot. (I’m thinking J.R. Ward here.) This erotic romance is very close to steamy romance, just a little more explicit. Then there’s another part of erotic romance, the language is stronger, the sex acts can be a lot more varied, and the writing can be much more minimalist, with lean plotting action. (I’m thinking Maya Banks.) Ella, we need to come up with some names to distinguish these kinds of erotic romance. I’ve been thinking of the lighter kind as “Vanilla erotic romance” but I don’t know that this is the best term…


  4. ellaquinnauthor October 8, 2012 at 3:04 pm #

    I agree with your other reader. The minute the nasty words start, I’m done with the book. It especially bothers me in an historical.


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