Ready For Love?
In the midst of final edits for a requested manuscript, I realized two things at the same time. NBC’s Ready For Love was on and I needed a blog post for Thursday. Now, normally, I know we shouldn’t ditch the tedious task of editing for trashy reality TV, but you know, since I HAD to blog….I took a break. ;>
Surprisingly, Eva Longoria is an executive producer of this show. She starts things off by coming out on stage and admitting that these reality love show couples don’t make it mostly. But not on this show, of course.
Ready for Love starts off in good–a very, very good–direction by picking out this guy Tim Lopez from the band Plain White T’s. Tim Lopez is a ball of crush-worthiness. You don’t see him coming. Sincere, self-effacing, with a drop of dork/geek but with this kind of quiet player charm. Geez (fanning myself.)
Sure, I can get into a frenzy about watching a really good guy trying to find love as much as the next girl. Yes, I empathize deeply watching a young woman leave her comfort zone as she tries to avoid old unhelpful emotional patterns. But let’s face it my friends, we watch these shows for the crazy. Bring on the cray-cray. We watch these emotional car crashes half gawking half wondering the whole time how much money people are getting.
Now Ready for Love is definitely trying to avoid all that crazy. At least at first it seems that way. There are no obvious porn star wannabes, no obvious party girls gone wild. There’s no cute girl singer/songwriter who –hey where’d that guitar come from?–happens to serenades her date with her original song over national television.
The show is sort of a hybrid. There are matchmakers–great looking match makers–who are on hand to pick out women for each guy. They also give the women sound advice after each group date. So one can come away from the show with little gold nuggets about relationships. Classy, right?
For instance, Amanda says “Most women see men as someone to conquer. But really, they’re creatures who just want to be loved.” Preach it, sister!
Matt says “We deal in emotion, not logic. Don’t talk about facts on a first date. When we talk about what we do , how old we are, the first date goes nowhere. Try seeking for an emotional connection instead.” I’m nodding. That sounds so smart.
Tracy suggests her gals think about utilizing their spirit of play for first date, and be in the moment. Yup.
So at this point I’m thinking the show seems to be working for the more sincere side of love and family.
I’m not necessarily missing the crazy, because Tim Lopez is so interesting. The more the show goes on, the more sophisticated and layered he seems to be. At this point on The Bachelor some woman would already be on her back, showing the bachelor how she can wrap her legs around the back of her head and then inviting him to spin her like a bottle.
They even make Tim wait for the first gander at the gals. He stands behind a wall and chooses the women according to what they say not what they look like. The freaky part is he seems to always pick the blondes out first. What’s even more bizarre is that later on he admits he has a thing for blondes. Let the love doctors puzzle that one out.
One of the blondes actually does look a little…well…trampy. She has these crazy pumped up lips and has a real grade “A” groupie vibe. It turns out that she’s been a long term admirer of Tim’s back in Austin TX. I don’t know, she seems sort of like a stalker. She’s also very overtly aware of her lips and pouts or twitches them around a lot.
Spoiler alert! At the end of the show he has to decide between one girl and the super pooty lips stalker, Leah.
There are two fascinating things that happen here. Leah puts it all on the line. Tim is very aware that this is the first time someone’s taken the big risk to woo him. She’s wooing alright, she’s making the Big Grand Gesture. He’s evolved enough to be impressed. But he’s always been the chaser before in relationships. Hmmm.
He respects her move, but it’s not clear that he responds.
Meanwhile, there’s something a little, um, f*****-up about Leah. Her story goes like this: I met him when he was married and was like shucks! Then we were friends for six years. Then I found out that he was doing this show and I had to tell him how I feel, because I’m in love with him.
Okay….but we also find out that she has a son. Who looks like he’s, um, three. So, that part in the middle there? Her story doesn’t quite add up. Especially since he’s become much more famous in the last year or so.
So I’m appreciating the show when –hey, where did that guitar come from? Suddenly Tim is playing his big song with his band. Then he’s singing for the girls. Is he promoting himself or what? I kept waiting for one of the girl’s faces to register this ‘hey dude, is it always going to be all about you?’
Ultimately, Tim’s problem is that he’s on the road. These women have various jobs like spa manager, real estate agent. While they’re fairly smart, interesting, and deep, their work ties them to a location. Tim obviously needs someone who can take her work with her anywhere. Someone who does something like * cough * write romances.
One may leave the show with question marks hovering around Tim, (How did he pick all those blondes first? How?) but the truly desirable guy in my opinion is Brit metro matchmaker Matt Hussey. He knows how men think. He knows how to relate to women. He’s yummy.
See what I mean? Melt.