Retro Nog: Secrets to a Merry Little Xmas…
What makes you love Christmas? For me it was my grandmother. She brought the x in xmas. She had a kind of classic 50’s sophisticated spirit that lingers in my heart to this day. For her holidays were about food, drink, and making merry. When I think of the holiday season I think of her cooking, her generosity–as well as her whack tree ornaments.
In addition to grandma, a few key Christmas movies shaped my holiday ‘tude over the years.
When I hit my twenties I became entranced with THE THIN MAN. Nick n Nora–the perfect child-free couple–celebrates the holidays with friends, cocktails parties, and a few carefully selected self-indulgent gifts.
Lastly there’s CHRISTMAS IN CONNETICUT. It’s about a single woman who doesn’t cook or tend the hearth. She doesn’t have a domestic finger in her body in fact. Yet there’s still a big ass tree, some singing, lots of snow, cocktails, and a mostly child-free environment—-Are you hearing a theme here people? There’s an attitude towards the holidays that I’ve internalized over the years.
So for folks who get cranky around the holidays here’s the cure you’ve been looking for. Get rid of your inner Grinch-ies by following these simple rules:
1) Buy yourself fabulous gifts. This will improve your holiday cheer immediately.
2) Embrace singing, sweaters, & snow. Get out those great sexy sweaters as the weather gets chilly. Sing along to the xmas music while doing chores and in the holiday traffic. But more than that, embrace that very specific 50’s holiday spirit–it’s a domestically sexy and sophisticated thing. Embrace your inner purr.
3) Listen to Nat King Cole & other Christmas music–obviously. Take an evening to make your own mix if you haven’t already. Mix in classic tunes with some newer stuff. Don’t subject yourself to the radio and others music choices. It’s instantly cranky-inducing to have to listen to grating tunes others like that you yourself abhor.
4) Listen to your inner happy person. Have those people and things around that you like–don’t bother with everything else. The 50’s were about keeping things simple. You had good boundaries. People did a few simple things and the rest was tossing out good wishes for the holidays like it was Christmas confetti.
So just get the stuff done that really makes you happy…What about your family? Well think about it this way. If you’re happy, they’ll be happy.
If there are other parts of the holiday-making are important to your husband say, then let him do the all the work to make it happen. That way he can have things exactly the way he wants them.
5) Stay away from relatives that annoy you. Be generous in sending them your thoughts of love. Ditto xmas cards and gifts sent by mail.
The one prominent fact these movies bear home is that xmas is best spent with friends and without annoying family members. Remind relatives that you love them and wish them a very merry xmas. Even though you’d just LOVE to come to their house, go to midnight mass, wear that ugly sweater they got you last year–unfortunately, you just can’t possibly. Thou shalt spend all thy holidays with relatives is not one of the ten commendments.
7) Recognize that no, Virginia, Christmas is not just for children. If you do happen to find yourself with little people underfoot think of them as elves in training. Expect them to behave accordingly. They’re anxious to prove they’ve been good anyway. They want to wrap gifts, they want to bake, they want to lick stamps on Christmas cards.
Tell them they are hosts n hostesses in training. Let them carry drinks to guests. They’ll love it once they get the hang of it, and they’ll be far less bored. Watch them get your guests sloshed in no time.
8) Aim for holiday food and treats with nuts in them. A big sugar crash makes for big cranky pants. While I’d never say abstain from sweets over the holidays (what am I–a monster?) nuts contain protein that helps to soften the blow as you come down from that sugar high. It helps you avoid feeling compelled to act like every piece of holiday fudge may be your last.
9)Indulge in judicious amounts of egg-nog multiple times a day. Thick, rich, velvety nog. It’s the sexy bombshell of all xmas drinks. The embodiment of this entire 50’s-ish xmas theme. Keep a steady supply on hand. Doctor it with a thimble full of whisky or rum. You should see mood-lifting effects a few minutes after each dosage.
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