What Kind Of Woman Hires A Gigolo?

12 Mar

Showtime's GigolosBy Elizabeth Shore

Right around a year ago this time, I wrote a post about the Showtime reality show, GigolosAside from the undeniable titillation factor of watching hot guys having sex, there’s something appealing about how the show depicts the lives of men who work as professional gigolos. You get glimpses into their private lives, their interests outside of work, and the kinds of things one spends time thinking about who works as a gigolo, like the constant need to stay über fit (Captain Obvious news flash: it’s good for business). But as I’m watching Season 5, my curiosity drifts toward the clients and what their stories are. I ask myself: Who, exactly, are these women hiring gigolos? And why?

I first began really thinking about this when one of the episodes depicted a woman with issues of heartbreakingly low self esteem. She’d lived her life never really having much attention from men, never feeling she was very pretty, or desirable, and her self confidence was in the toilet. To finally get some male attention, she decided to hire a gigolo. Or at least, that’s what she said on the show. I’ve read articles alleging that the clients are really paid actresses, which would mean their stories are as real as Paris Hilton’s singing talent. But let’s put that aside and assume the background stories are true. Call me a mush, but I was touched by this woman’s story. Whether it was true or not doesn’t even actually matter, because I sure as heck can identify with her insecurities. Haven’t we all been in situations where we’ve felt we’re not pretty enough, or smart enough, or skinny enough or whatever enough? Who hasn’t been plagued with feelings of inadequacy? It’s a damn sucky place to be. If someone comes along and assures us that those feelings are wrong, that we’re actually pretty special, and the person doing the reassuring also happens to be a guy so hot we go weak in the knees, all the better, right? Yet I have to admit, there’s still a part of me wondering whether a bruised ego really gets a boost from someone who’s only saying all the right things because you’re paying him to.

There’s a wide variety of female clients on the show, ranging in everything from age to body type to racial background to profession, and they all come with their reasons for hiring a gigolo. Several of them do it to see fantasies brought to life. One woman had a thing for vampires, another wanted to pretend she lived during the Renaissance. Then there’s “Jill,” a mother of four daughters, who explained that she and her husband of over 27 years had decided that – although they’re soul mates on an emotional level – they wanted to open up their marriage physically and have sex with other people. Jill decided there’s no better way to accomplish that dream than by hiring four gigolos at once. You go, girl! Hey, I’ll be the first to admit that she seemed to have a screamin’  good time with it. Another segment featured a woman who, by her own admission, had intimacy issues and confessed that guys “freak her out.” Enter, gigolo. She and her friend hired Bradley Lords, whose services the friend had used once before. He helped the woman shed her inhibitions and enjoy being in the company of an attractive man.

One thing is for sure, Cowboys 4 Angels, the escort service the gigolos work for, appears to be doing a bang-up business. Owner Garren James sports locations in Las Vegas, L.A., San Francisco, New York, south Florida, and Chicago, so clearly someone’s hiring them, with each and every client having their personal reasons why. I have to say, the “cowboys” featured on the website are gorgeous so it wouldn’t exactly be a hardship to spend some time in their company. In the end, whatever reasons a woman may have for hiring a gigolo are hers alone. And after all, the show takes place in Las Vegas so whatever happens there . . . well, you know.

What do you think? Would you ever hire a gigolo? Sound off below and don’t forget to follow us at Lady Smut. We’ll give you lots of good reasons to do it.

26 Responses to “What Kind Of Woman Hires A Gigolo?”

  1. Madeline Iva March 12, 2014 at 7:55 am #

    I think from how many people have read that original blog post–Smokin Hot Gigolos–that people are *definitely* interested in the topic. It seems like the strip-club guy thing, just on a whole other level…

    Did you ever watch that TV series HUNG? The actors were great in that series…

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    • Elizabeth Shore March 12, 2014 at 12:17 pm #

      I watched a few episodes of Hung but somehow I couldn’t get into it. The actors were great, though. Great actors, not so great material.

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  2. Kel March 12, 2014 at 10:15 am #

    Honestly, I can’t say whether I would or not. I don’t live in a place where it’s legal, so I’d have that issue… and then there’s the whole problem with the transmission of HPV around condoms and the fact that they only inoculate women younger than me against two of the strains (granted, the two that can kill you) and that an estimated 80% of sexually active adults in the US have at least one strain at some point in their life.

    Yeah. Probably not.

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    • Elizabeth Shore March 12, 2014 at 12:22 pm #

      How they get around the “legal” issue, apparently, is that the the gigolos are hired as personal escorts (nights on the town, dinner, shows, meeting companion – whatever flies). Anything else that may or may not happen beyond that is between the two people involved. So essentially gigolos aren’t *technically* hired for sex but merely as “companions.” Who you pay for.

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  3. Barbara Mikula March 12, 2014 at 10:27 am #

    Uhh…what was that phone number? LOL :))

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  4. bridgetblackwoodauthor March 12, 2014 at 11:54 am #

    First off, I’d like to say that I’m fairly certain not every woman who hires a gigolo has sex with him. HPV, HIV, STD’s etc don’t have to be a concern. Like the woman you described in the post, sometimes you just need attention for being you and that being enough for a man. Yeah, I’m sure the sex would be nice, though being hot doesn’t mean you have a clue what your doing in the bedroom, but it might negate the positive experience. I’d worry I would backslide into negative thoughts and “he was only nice because he wanted sex.”, a problem I hear about with no gigolos in sight!

    I’m all for a confidence boost! If it takes hiring someone to see yourself better and love yourself, go for it.

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  5. bridgetblackwoodauthor March 12, 2014 at 11:54 am #

    Reblogged this on Bridget Blackwood and commented:
    Would you hire a gigolo?

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  6. Sue Ellen March 12, 2014 at 12:07 pm #

    OMG. I had no idea there was such a show. I just might have to get Showtime now. Okay, so I do confess to checking out the Website and yes, the guys are yummy. But I don’t think I would ever hire a gigolo. Not so much because of the disease thing – In their line of work I’m sure they are quite “clean” and are constantly getting check-ups – but probably because I would feel too intimidated by the whole process. Also, none of it would be real. I would feel too much like I was playing a part, but I guess that’s probably the point. Now if I met one of the “cowboys” outside of their workplace? That might be a totally different story. :))

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    • Barbara Mikula March 12, 2014 at 12:21 pm #

      If you think that’s crazy, I stumbled upon a show – I think it was called Buy Naked – on the Destination America (DEST) channel. People were looking at homes in the nudist neighborhoods north of Tampa, Florida. They were NAKED – lots of cute butts, no frontal nudity. I was still amazed. Needless to say, I watched the whole show!! :))

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      • Elizabeth Shore March 12, 2014 at 12:27 pm #

        Buy Naked??! Wow, I never heard of it. I did a post awhile back on nudist resorts (no longer called “colonies”). Apparently people still go there. I had no idea they were nude neighborhoods!

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      • Barbara Mikula March 12, 2014 at 12:36 pm #

        These are not “camps” – they are luxury neighborhoods where people walk the streets naked, play tennis naked, etc. I was AMAZED. Apparently there are some realtors who are specializing in that market.

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      • Madeline Iva March 12, 2014 at 5:04 pm #

        I read David Sedaris’s book Naked–have you? Very funny stories about living in a nudist colony for awhile….If I were blind, I’d move there. They seem like nice people.

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      • Barbara Mikula March 12, 2014 at 5:39 pm #

        They were all very cute couples – just NAKED. LOL – have not read that book, will look for it. – Skye Michaels

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    • Elizabeth Shore March 12, 2014 at 12:26 pm #

      I have to say that the scenes when the gigolos are with women and they’re in the “getting to know you” stage are really uncomfortable. Maybe it’s just because it’s on camera, I don’t know. The gigolos seems comfortable but the women are always nervous. Still, they want to do it and are paying big bucks for the companionship.

      Outside of their work . . . seriously, I never see guys on the street who look like that. Where are they??!!

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      • Barbara Mikula March 12, 2014 at 12:34 pm #

        Ha! Only in my books! (or other people’s books!) – Skye Michaels :))

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      • Madeline Iva March 12, 2014 at 5:05 pm #

        You have not been to ROMANTICON, my friend. The cavemen look like that — even better! And they will give out the love hugs. I could barely stammer around them.

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  7. Elizabeth Shore March 12, 2014 at 9:26 pm #

    Now that you mention it, I had the same experience years ago at an RT convention. Very hunky cover models giving the fans and writers hugs. But then they disappear. Perhaps back to a cave?

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    • Barbara Mikula March 13, 2014 at 6:04 am #

      Perhaps back to their wives and three kids – Darn! LOL :)) – Skye Michaels

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  8. Sue Ellen March 12, 2014 at 11:47 pm #

    Definitely never seen any of these guys around. Maybe I just live in the wrong place. Of course, when I’m up and about these guys are probably sleeping, Like the hookers in Vegas that don’t usually show up until 1 or 2 in the morning, these guys probably start their day when mine is ending. So sad. Maybe that would be a good incentive to stay up later. Lol

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    • Elizabeth Shore March 13, 2014 at 8:35 am #

      I think you’ve hit the nail on the head, Sue Ellen. I’m just going to bed too darn early! If I were the type to stay up late and party in clubs until 2 am (or beyond) perhaps I’d get more glimpses of those hunks. (sigh) Oh well.

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  9. Kelly Janicello March 14, 2014 at 9:28 am #

    I don’t know that I would go the gigolo route. It’s like you said, probably not much of an ego boost when you are paying them. They will say anything you want to hear as long as the cash is there. Not a real confidence booster when he “has” to say it.

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  10. Rene January 29, 2015 at 4:51 am #

    “Feeling like a Natural Woman”

    The first social scientific study about female clientele
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    What are the demands and sexual desires ?

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