Man Giz & Rock Star Romance Research: Q&A with Carlene Love Flores
MADELINE IVA: Carlene, what’s the most shocking thing you’ve ever written about?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: Hi! Oh! This is interesting timing that you’ve asked me this as I just recently found out erotic lactation is not the sexy, romantic fantasy I imagined it being! I’m enough of a newbie not to have known it was taboo when I submitted a short hot mess with that as the main theme.
MADELINE IVA: My first involuntary response is ‘Ew.’
But if you followers out there are suddenly panting over the idea, I will refer you to a really puerile Clive Owen movie called SHOOT ‘EM UP which does contain the suggestion of lactation sex. (Why do I even mention this horrible film??? A: because I don’t like to suffer alone. and B: while Clive Owen can be sexy as hell, at heart he’s a total goofball. This movie proves it.)
The blogger in me, however gives you double plus points for starting off ANY INTERVIEW ON PLANT EARTH by referencing erotic lactation. I mean, you’ve definitely got my full attention. Go Carlene. Gold star.
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: I completely understood the decision to pass on it but it did get me thinking… a woman can ingest man giz but a man taking breast milk is a no-no. Why?? I asked hubby and his best answer was, “Breast milk signifies life.” Which of course made me think, “So do sperm!” I’m really curious to know what you think about this. Is there a gross factor and why am I not grossed out by it? What’s wrong with me, Madeline????
MADELINE IVA: I don’t know, Carlene. I do know I shall from now on refer to ejaculate as man giz. ;>
Seriously, people fall all over the map on the topic of what’s sexy vs. what’s gross. You’re out there–way out there, and yet your logic is pretty flawless. I think the opposition would suggest breast milk is for babies, and thinking about babies in relation to sex is gross. Yet some would disagree–essentially equating fertility with sexy. Do we always separate sexy & babies in this MILF age? For instance there’s that moment where you’re having such amazing sex that you compulsively scream out ‘I want your baby!’ You know?
But enough about sex and babies. So, Sin Pointe – how did you come up with this community?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: I knew there were already hot romances out there chronicling the bad boys of rock n roll. I decided I wanted my books to be about the whole rock family and not necessarily their life on stage. In the Sin Pointe series, you’ll find stories about the jaded personal assistant, the quirky webmaster, the ambitious opening act and yes, the bad boys of the band too. They just won’t be sexing it up on a tour bus because I thought it would be fun to pluck them up out of Rock Star, California and plop them down in tiny, out of the way towns like Bugscuffle, Tennessee…where they are free to romp around in the buff, get into loads of naughty trouble and yes, sex it up quite a bit. They’re just more likely to do it by a creek or at Grandma’s.
MADELINE IVA: What draws you to write about rock n roll singers? Has your research revealed any interesting tid-bits about ‘the life’? Or is it sheer boredom that leads bands into sin?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: Watching a grown man get lost in a song on stage, seeing the child come alive and battle it out with the cool guy. As a woman, I see the complete vulnerability that I don’t think the man is even aware of while he’s playing and singing. Does Caleb from Kings of Leon understand how sensual it is when he sings about getting head while he’s driving? I honestly don’t think so. It’s a really intimate moment to witness, especially live and close up. That’s what I love capturing about musicians in my stories.
Rock Star romance research rocks. Say that fast, even just once! In 2006, I hung out with Depeche Mode’s security manager at one of the band’s shows. I went backstage for an in-depth, behind the scenes view of the inner-workings of the tour. Incredibly, everyone from the carpenters to the sound guys to the seamstress and masseuse and even the guys in the band were all 100% down-to-earth. So in a way, I found out that my fantasies are a lot more debauched and naughty than the real deal. I did get warned while backstage that at any moment, someone could go walking by in their skivvies. 😉
To answer the last bit about boredom, in my Sin Pointe free read, Touch of Sin, the hero has this thought: “Luke would never understand how they could be as busy as they were making the music and still find time to fuck it all up.” That’s my boys…making time to sin.
MADELINE IVA: Nice. We know all the stereotypes of what men do on the road…but what about women who do rock n roll? What makes the main character Trista, from Sidewalk Flower, become so jaded? What is it about being on the road that steals her innocence?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: Even though Trista isn’t in the band, she’s one of the guys. By virtue of being their personal assistant for the last sixteen years (she started out too young, at 16), she’s seen it all. I’m sure the first few times she walked in on Jaxon or Stefan getting backstage favors, she may have skittered back out blushing. But now it’s nothing. She might even wave in passing. Trista loves the guys but like she says in Sidewalk Flower, “She just didn’t know how much longer she could keep on chasing him around—his personal rodeo clown.” Him is Jaxon James, the founder of Sin Pointe and her best friend, but not her hero. These Sin Pointe guys are the definitive examples of Real Bad Boys but Very Good Men. That’s confusing to a young woman still growing up and ultimately what steals her innocence. I think when you begin to hate what you love, it leaves you jaded.
MADELINE IVA: We like innocent women in romance. What draws you to writing about innocent-ish guys? (One hero in your books hasn’t been exposed to ‘the life’. Another was the victim of a prank, and then the heroine lied to him…)
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: The draw of an innocent guy is that he’s still a guy at the end of the day. Lucky worries that as a carpenter, he can’t compete with Rock Stars for Trista’s hand but there’s still nothing more he’d like than to make her his and be good and tender to her in and out of bed.
Ben, my quirky webmaster who must deal with the woman who saved him by lying to him, jokes that his biggest wish is to show Mrs. Right he’s got game other than Xbox. I don’t quantify a man’s sex appeal to his sexual experience. If he’s got it, he’s got it. Can you imagine tapping into all that when it’s rarely been touched? I can tell you, writing that gets me every time.
MADELINE IVA: Whew. Yes. Okay, tell me honestly—have you ever played air guitar? In the privacy of your own home, or you know, out in public?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: Is there a woman alive who doesn’t break into air guitar on Heart’s Crazy on You, Magic Man and Barracuda? Seriously, a woman’s hands are making those sounds! To be that talented. I want, I want, I want! I also play air microphone and pretend I’m Maja Ivarsson of The Sounds. Her leg kicks blow my mind. Um, yeah, but only at home…and in the presence of my cat. :>
MADELINE IVA:They did a Heart song “Magic Man” on The Voice this week and it was Soooooo good! Love it! I was not doing air guitar but I will confess to singing along full volume while doing the dishes.
Please tell us about your series…
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: The Sin Pointe Novels are sexy, intimate and dark stories about good men and women testing their limits. If they’re bound to hurt the ones they love, is the right choice to stop loving? In the official series free read that just came out this month, loving Mrs. Right means the hero risks sacrificing his band’s second chance. Is there shame in choosing love? I’ve seen too many people with good hearts go down because of the shame heaped on top of them. These stories are for them and anyone who identifies with that feeling.
MADELINE IVA: Nice! And tell us about yourself – who are you Carlene? You say on your website that you grew up in a traveling family – did those road experiences lay the groundwork for your series?
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: I could happily live my entire life on the road. I remember making the monthly drives from Las Vegas to San Diego to visit my dad. By ten, I knew the hand signals to sign to the truckers to get them to blow their horn. Mom raised me in Vegas. She’d work all week and on the weekends we’d go watch the local bands play live in the casino lounges then on the weekends attend their charity softball games. Most recently, I was an army wife for 21 years and my hubby has never been sexier to me than he is now that we’re out in the civilian world together, preparing for another move. The road is in me. Music is in me. Sacrifice and Romance are in me. I’m also notoriously goofy. And I blush a lot. Yeah, I think I was made to write this series. You know what they say…they’re never lived a luckier girl. ;>
MADELINE IVA: It’s been a real treat to chat with you today, Carlene. 🙂
CARLENE LOVE FLORES: Thank you for making me feel like a rock star, Madeline.
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