Cuckolding: What you might not know

24 Jun

A note from Liz Everly: When I was at Book Expo America, I stopped by the Ellora’s Cave booth, of course. Author Isabelle Drake (love her tag line “the Nicer Side of Naughty”) was there and we struck up a conversation. I think she definitely fits right in here at Lady Smut and I’m glad she said yes to a guest post.

Take it away Isabelle!

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By Isabelle Drake

Pink BowBDSM, ménage, bad boys….I love these as much as the next reader. But as I writer, I know that sometimes I need bring something new to erotic romance readers. A little while ago, I was questing for something new and on top of my to-be-considered list was cuckolding. At that time, I didn’t know that much about the cuckold lifestyle, just the commonly known bit that it involved sex outside a marriage.

I started doing some research and was surprised by what I found. Cuckold culture challenges the mainstream notion that women don’t need sex. It also challenges the common belief that women, unlike men, can’t enjoy sex for sex’s sake. That is, women can’t get physical pleasure from sex in a non-committed relationship. Anything that goes against mainstream culture interests me

Here are a couple things I discovered about cuckolding:

  • Typically, the husband is aware of the wife’s “cheating” and often arranges, or participates in arranging, the lover. He may also be in control of what happens, including frequency and number of partners.
  • A “cuckold husband” may take pride in his wife’s sexuality and in his ability to manage his “hotwife.”
  • Wearing an ankle bracelet on the right ankle indicates that a woman is a hotwife.

Why do people do it?

  • Cuckold husbands are aroused by the idea of, or by actually witnessing, his wife having sex with another man. One theory that seeks to explain this proposes the idea that men are motivated by competition and the cuckold husband, knowing that he is in competition with another man to sexually satisfy his wife, feels an intensified his passion for her.
  • Hotwives are sexually empowered and, if new to the scene, often experience a sexual reawakening. One biologically-oriented theory states because women, unlike men, experience orgasm in a variety of ways women need variation to be truly satisfied physically. Due to this variation in ways of arousal and satisfaction, women naturally prefer multiple partners who will be able to satisfy them in multiple ways.

Intrigued?

Ready for some fantasy?

After all that research, I was. Having spoken with readers, writers, and well, pretty much anyone who was interested, about the cuckold lifestyle, I understood it was a controversial topic. I’m not one to shy away from controversy. My challenge was to take everything I’d learned about cuckolding and the cuckold lifestyle and weave it into a romantic and satisfying story.

The Pink Bow, Book 1 in my Cuckold Beach series, focuses on the wife, showing how her husband is rewarded for encouraging her natural sexuality. Wicked Pink, Book 2, answers the question, why would a man want to be the lover of another man’s wife.

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Here’s a description of the Cuckold Beach series:

On a sizzling stretch of California beach, devoted husbands are dedicated to satisfying their wives’ deepest desires. They’ll do whatever it takes to bring intimacy and ecstasy to the women they love…even if it means giving their wives to other men…while they watch.

And a bit about The Pink Bow ~ #1 in the Cuckold Beach series:

Abby is a naughty girl. Hornier than your average wife. And she’s certain she’s done a good job of hiding it from Troy. But like any dutiful husband, not only has Troy noticed the intensity of Abby’s sex drive—he plans to exploit it.

In a luxurious house on the beach, where couples gather to privately enjoy a taste of sexual freedom, Abby’s about to experience the hottest gift a husband can give.

 

Find Isabelle on Social Media:

Web: http://www.isabelledrake.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Isabelle-Drake/262135373800722?ref=hl

Twitter: @isabelledrake

Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/isabelledrake/

isabelle@isabelledrake.com

13 Responses to “Cuckolding: What you might not know”

  1. Author Charmaine Gordon June 24, 2014 at 8:41 am #

    Had I only known, back in the day when fidelity was THE key to a happy marriage and sex other than the marital bed was -gasp-CHEATING-I’d love to have been first in line with what you’ve described. Alas, I’m destined to be faithful.

    Best to you with your books and thanks for a terrific post.

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    • Liz Everly June 24, 2014 at 11:02 am #

      To each his or her own, I always say. Cheers, Charmaine!

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    • Isabelle Drake June 30, 2014 at 4:32 pm #

      Faithful is great! Thanks for checking out my post.

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  2. Liz Everly June 24, 2014 at 11:01 am #

    So glad Isabelle could join us today. Welcome!

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  3. Elizabeth Shore June 24, 2014 at 2:26 pm #

    Very intriguing post, Isabelle. I’ve never looked at that topic from the viewpoint of a guy wanting his wife to be with other men (for whatever reason). I’m with you – the controversy brings with it discussion, and as far as I’m concerned that’s always a good thing.

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    • Isabelle Drake June 26, 2014 at 8:44 am #

      I’ve enjoyed many lively discussions on the topic, especially on the point of whether the women are empowered or objectified.

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  4. Madeline Iva June 24, 2014 at 9:24 pm #

    I think it’s an interesting concept in so far as it offers opportunities to women who feel like they wouldn’t be in a relationship with one man because they’d want/need sex from others as well. This allows them to have their cake and eat it too. It also seems to be trendier now than ‘swingers parties’. Wonder why that is?

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    • Isabelle Drake June 26, 2014 at 8:46 am #

      I wondered the same thing. Maybe it’s just how trends come & go, maybe it has something to do with our current culture. I’d be interested to hear any ideas…

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  5. Isabelle Drake June 26, 2014 at 1:28 pm #

    Faithful is great! Thanks for checking out my post.

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