Be the Change: Let the Leaked Photos Fade

7 Sep
Can we put what was done in the dark back in the dark? Please?

Can we put what was done in the dark back in the dark? Please?

By Alexa Day

It’s been a tough week for sexy news. Part of the trouble is that my social media feeds have been jammed with the news of the recent celebrity photo leaks and then jammed with reactions to the celebrity photo leaks. Perez Hilton posted some of the photos, removed the photos and then apologized for posting the photos. Fakes and alterations of the photos turned up everywhere. Blog posts debated whether it was right or wrong to actively seek out the photos (which seems to me to be an obvious question, given the circumstances).

One post makes a racial argument of the fact that a person could still get to Jill Scott’s nudes with a simple search while Jennifer Lawrence’s had been removed. The fact that Jill Scott denied any actual nude photos was conveniently overlooked.

I hesitate to add to this discourse, in part because my frustration with the news drove me away from it, but I really just have one more thing to say.

At this point, the women whose photos were ripped off and then leaked seem to have stepped back from coverage of this scandal. News outlets and commentators still taking part in the fray are now more vocal about the leaks than the women who were actually wronged. That’s a problem. If exploitation of the photos for sexual and economic gratification was (and is) a problem, then exploitation of the leaks for support of various sociopolitical stances is also a problem. I do not have standing to be more upset about these leaks than the women whose privacy was violated. If they’re done with this, then I’m done with it.

If we want to live in a society where those who want to be photographed privately in the nude can do so without fear of public censure, I think we need to make that commitment to society today. If we want to live in a world where that kind of self-expression doesn’t cause such a furor, then we need to stop with the furor. We need to stop gawking. We need to stop judging. We need to stop searching and clicking and pointing fingers.

We do need to stop theft by punishing thieves, yes. But how much more is really necessary?

Please, let’s devote our energies this week to doing something sexy. Please?

And follow Lady Smut. It’s safe here. Promise.

2 Responses to “Be the Change: Let the Leaked Photos Fade”

  1. Madeline Iva September 7, 2014 at 10:23 am #

    It’s probably more helpful to think of ‘a celebrity’ as a layered entity or persona — with a real person–probably a massive extrovert full of clawing ambition–down at the very bottom somewhere.

    I’m sure some of these folks are taking photos of themselves and being like: I practically kill myself all day every day to look this good –and this body and face are only going to last at this level of perfection for only so long–so why can’t everybody see it?

    And then their publicist or whoever is like: do you want to play a heroine young tweeners look up to? Or do you want to play whores? And then the photos go away.

    I mean, look at Lea Michelle. She was all Miz clean high school, but loves taking these photos of herself in her thong in Mexico and tweeting it out to the world. She’s not getting a lot of work these days, is she? It’s such a mixed message. We’re not so good with subtlety in America. Maybe her thong needs to go to France….

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    • Kel September 8, 2014 at 3:44 pm #

      I hate the fat that anyone thinks they have the right to judge anyone else’s choices when no one gets hurt. It’s a common human failing; we judge people’s relationships, their food choices, their bodies, their hair, pretty much everything they put into their mouths or onto their bodies…

      We basically suck.

      Unless someone is harmed*, you care personally about an involved party, or the choice impacts your life in a negative way, you don’t get to be upset about their choices. If your idea of a choice impacting you negatively is that you feel smaller as a human by seeing someone else having a good time, go get some therapy; you are a sad, small human.

      *Harm is damage. Usually big damage; mental, physical, emotional… the kind that cannot be easily fixed. If you need to see a healer (counselor, doctor, physical therapist, nurse, or so on) afterward, you have been harmed. All bets or off if the choice involved other than consenting adults. Inability to consent implies harm.

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