Be More Sexy

One Night in Rome by C Margery Kempe - 200by C. Margery Kempe

I’m sure a lot of people have started off the year with resolutions. Maybe it’s losing weight or getting fit, stopping some bad habit or other, but of course here at Lady Smut, we know what matters most: being sexy. Like any change you want to make you have to develop a habit. But how do you make being sexy a habit?

Step 1

Be confident — nothing is sexier than someone who knows precisely who they are, their strengths and their weaknesses, and knows that they deserve the very best that life sends their way.

Step 2

Be adventurous — if you’re just going to fall into old habits and be happy with the same old thing, why bother? Try new things, meet new people, don’t be afraid to make mistakes or waste time. Don’t take everything so seriously!

Step 3

Be creative — be the change you want to see in your life. Try new things, but also try new ways of doing things you like. Mix and match your wardrobe instead of the samey pieces. Paint, draw, write, cook — make things instead of just getting ready-made and explore the fun of making things with your hands. I know a lot of you love that scene from Ghost where the gooey pot throwing gets all sexy. Why? Making things leads to strong hands.

Step 4

Be sensual — and not just in bed. When did you last savor your food? When did you inhale the aroma of something other than flowers (and were they hot house flowers, too? What about wild violets?!). Feel the fabric of your clothing, the veneer of wood, the coldness of your ice cream or the heat of your mug of tea. Close your eyes and let it fill your senses. Go to a museum and fill your eyes with color and imagination. Go to a concert and concentrate on the power of music to heal your body, to make you sway and dance. The beat of the drum mimics the blood in your veins. Let it lead you on.

Make it a habit to not just move through the world but to be alive to it, all of it. Yourself included. Don’t just accept your body: embrace it. If you can’t love yourself, no one else will be persuaded. Give love freely: the more you give, the more you have.

Be sexy.

Be adventurous!

And be sure to follow Lady Smut: we’ll show you all the ways to embrace your wonderful life.

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  • Madeline Iva
    January 2, 2015 at 9:30 am

    What wonderful points you make. I’m like: yes, yes, yes AND Yes! Happy New Year to you too. xo

  • Elizabeth SaFleur (@ElizaLoveStory)
    January 2, 2015 at 9:52 am

    I’ll second that motion. Here’s a “more” 2015.

  • Elizabeth Shore
    January 2, 2015 at 12:45 pm

    Great points! There’s so much to being sexy that goes waaaaay beyond a cute dress and heels (if that’s even your thing in the first place). Confidence is king, and then being sensual and creative and everything else sexy is possible.

  • Kel
    January 4, 2015 at 5:24 pm

    I think the sexiest thing that people can be is the most “themself” them. The confidence thing is really true… nothing is more attractive than someone who is honestly self-confident. (Of course, nothing is less off-putting than someone faking it badly.)

    And Oh Yes to the be sensual thing… I wish more people stopped and paid attention to the world around them. There is so much gorgeous stuff happening out there. Food, music, art… sunrises, sunsets, rainbows, rain… whatever. (I personally love the feeling of rain on my face, probably because I wore glasses for so long that it’s still a novelty even after so many years of contacts.)

    • C. Margery Kempe
      January 5, 2015 at 7:01 am

      Well put, Kel! People are always worrying about what will come or fretting about what has gone. Part of being truly alive is being here now.

  • C. Margery Kempe
    January 5, 2015 at 7:02 am

    Reblogged this on C. Margery Kempe and commented:

    Be more sexy by being more present *now*


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