What Men Like: BBW

15 Jan

By Madeline Iva

It’s theme week! We’re talking about what men like.  So far, over the last two years writing for this blog, I’ve learned that:

1) Men like women who are friendly, confident and open to being approached.

2) Men like to pursue women.  Sometimes to their detriment–if they try too hard or look needy.

3) Men like women who are 18 – 21 in person, but they fantasize about MILFS all the time.

4) Men like women for their (fill in the blank here) a) boobs b) ass c) pretty face

That’s all you really need to know.  As DH says, “it’s not rocket science.” ; > A lot of men are wired to respond this way.  They see what they see and their reptilian brain goes bing! and then they are off to the races.

BBW1The other thing I’ve learned in researching posts for this blog is that when it comes to men and women watching porn, men — unlike women — are sexually attracted to BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN or BBW.  Apparently BBWs can make a man’s brain go bing!

I like this.  Why? Because even though curvy women are beat down in the media for being over a size 8, men still like their figures.  It’s something men like that’s not disgusting.  And WHY do they like curvy women? The answer is just because they just do.  Not because society tells them to.  Not because they’re being nice.  Not because they’re willing to ‘lower their standards’.   No, a curvy woman can involuntarily turn them on.  Not all men of course, but the ratio seems to be 5 to 1 for a larger sized femme over a skinny-mini.

The point here is–as an online Discover article relates–men like larger women when no one is looking. They like larger women despite society telling them not to. Some speculate the reason men are sexually attracted to bigger women works along the line of  “if a little is good then a lot is better”.  If men like boobs, hips, & asses, then larger women means bigger breasts, bigger hips, bigger asses.  I get it.

Chris Pratt

I will always love you Chris Pratt, no matter what size you are. ❤

Meanwhile, it’s interesting to note that there is no category for large men in porn that’s directed at women.  By large I mean all over.  There is most certainly a Big Dick category.  But there is no BBM category.  There’s a chub category–but that’s for gay men. Again, these are MEN who like or appreciate rounded proportions. (The whole bear/cub thing is different, but I suspect somewhat overlapping.)

If you look on the internet there’s BBW dating.  BBW Romance.  BBW awards — oh wait, that’s base ball writers.   And Big Beautiful Men? Not so much.  So who is it being hyper-critical about appearance?

At any rate–3 cheers for what turns men on! Here’s where you can find a long list of BBW romances on Goodreads–complete with books by Delilah Devlin, Charlotte Stein, Mary Jo Putney and others. Which brings up another question — women might not like BBMen, but are they attracted to BBW? Or do they read BBW because they are BBW themselves and identify with the heroine? Hmmmm.

1-800_MSRMeanwhile, if you’re looking for that nice guy in erotica who wants to please his partner but wanders into a friendly home shopping network selling sex toys — look no further! Our very own Alexa Day’s latest short story 1-800 is available HERE.

Oh, by the way dear Lady Smut readers — We’re on a blog tour this week! As we roam across the world we’ll be delving into the dark temptations of our anthology. Stop by and visit us in the comments section and say ‘hi’.  🙂

12th January: http://locglin.blogspot.com/

13th January: http://yougottaread.com

14th January: http://kdgrace.co.uk

15th January: http://www.lovebitessilkties.co.uk/

16th January: http://www.pinkypollock.blogspot.com

15 Responses to “What Men Like: BBW”

  1. Madeline Iva January 25, 2015 at 8:55 am #

    Reblogged this on madeline iva and commented:
    A follow up to my ever-popular UBER CURVY WOMEN blog! And check out the new BBW Pinterest page here: https://www.pinterest.com/madelineiva/bbw/

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  2. Jasmine January 17, 2015 at 3:23 am #

    I think that when all is said and done, women have way more unrealistic standards than men. I remember reading some study done where women on a particular dating site were surveyed and it was found they considered 80% of the men to be unattractive, which is pretty ridiculous IMO.

    On the other hand, while I’ll drool over pictures of chiseled, dreamy hunks any day and I’m not into fat men, I don’t actually mind my men a little softer, and I actually prefer a bubble butt on a guy as opposed to a flat ass or even buns of steel. Perfect men are great for favorites and all but in real life I’d rather have a more average guy; they’re less intimidating to those of us who aren’t bombshells ourselves.

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    • Jasmine January 17, 2015 at 3:24 am #

      Er, I meant “great for fantasies”, not “favorites”. Stupid autocorrect. 😦

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    • Madeline Iva January 17, 2015 at 4:16 pm #

      Loved your comment Jasmine! I will take a truly nice guy over a looker any day. Any day. I’m not into guy’s butts, I have to say. Now– a great forehead? That’s a horse of a different color! I’m obsessed with a noble brow. And most men–like most women, I’m sure–can sell almost anyone on their looks if they own it with comfort and confidence.

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  3. Carlene Love January 15, 2015 at 1:14 pm #

    Madeline! I loved this post. I’m such a lurker, lazy commenter. I read stuff I like and I think about it and then I usually go about my day. But something about your post motivated my lazy butt to sign in and say, this was a great post! You go, girl. I also loved your “Meanwhile, if you’re looking for…” bit. That book sounds incredibly entertaining. So I’ve been married 21 years today and hubby has loved me in every size I’ve morphed to throughout all that time. Happy almost weekend!!!!!

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    • Alexa Day January 15, 2015 at 11:09 pm #

      Carlene, I’m glad you came out of lurkdom to comment! I hope you give “1-800” a try. It’s a fun story for couples.

      I hope you and your husband have had a wonderful anniversary!

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      • Carlene Love January 16, 2015 at 4:46 pm #

        Thank you, Alexa! I’ve added it to my TBR treasure cove. 😉
        Haha, I’ll take those crazy hugs, Madeline. Thanks, lady!

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    • Madeline Iva January 16, 2015 at 8:25 am #

      Happy Anniversary Carlene! Crazy hugs to you. xo 🙂

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  4. Madeline Iva January 15, 2015 at 12:21 pm #

    Kel, as always you display such common sense! I don’t like being boxed in and labeled — who really does? What I wanted to draw a spotlight to was the tricks of the media and the modeling industry that get us all convinced that x,y or z is unattractive.

    I like what you say best about the challenge of designing clothes across a soft three dimensional figure. True–it is a challenge. On the other hand, I was wondering if men liked the *feel* of larger women….and maybe part of the struggle with what we like vs. what we’re supposed to like is the tyranny of the visual senses in modern society over the tactile senses.

    My husband has been trying a new workout regime, and to everyone he looks exactly the same, but to me he now feels different. I’ve never loved the sight of super-muscled men, but his shoulders are more bulky, and when we’re in bed at night I like the way he feels wider, bigger, and heavier than before…

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  5. Kel January 15, 2015 at 11:40 am #

    I always get a bit uncomfortable with “what *group* likes” articles… I know that there are tendencies that human share (We like symmetry, but not too much. We like people whose shapes tend toward our own, whose genetic backgrounds are similar to our own, but enough different to not be the same… We like similarly different things or perhaps differently similar things. We’re pretty predictable) but each person is different. I have vivid memories of a party in which people were for some reason trying to classify each other (for a game I think)… I was labelled in a series of “too…” by a roomful of people of both genders and a variety of orientations, and every time someone said “too x”, someone else objected with the opposite.

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  6. Elizabeth Shore January 15, 2015 at 9:42 am #

    It’s so interesting … men like curvy women, but lots of women – as evidenced by the billions spent every year on diet and weight loss help – don’t want to be curvy. Go figure.

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    • Kel January 15, 2015 at 11:21 am #

      It’s because our doctors tell us “You need to lose weight” instead of “You should do these things to be healthy and damn the (appearance of) weight”…

      and because the ideal model is an animate clothes rack. Seriously, it’s bloody difficult to make clothing attractive across a soft three dimensional figure. It’s much easier if the figure is angular, with as little flesh to influence the natural line of the fabric as possible. Models are there to make the clothes look amazing, not the other way around, and most people have no concept of the difference. Especially not people who’ve been told that they only have their physical appearance going for them.

      Not to rant or anything.

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