How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along in the middle of the Great Grey Beast of February? Change is hard (there’s science to prove it, it’s called the Ellsberg Paradox). It’s about now that people start to relinquish their hopes and fade into disappointment, so I’m going to channel Auntie Mame to be a cheerleader for you!
[pours martini just to be authentic]
Are you sticking with the way things are just because it’s familiar? You’ve got to live live live! You can handle it. You’re stronger than you think. Even making one significant change will improve your life. You know what’s not working. Value yourself enough to change it. You will be happy that you stuck with it.
Embrace change! You need fresh air to go on living, don’t you? Make it fresh by plunging into new things. Stop thinking of change as scary and instead consider it an adventure. Choose change and bring your child-like enthusiasm to the pursuit. Be truly alive.
Don’t aim low and don’t settle for less than you can get. I know, you worry what if I don’t get what I aim for? The truth is pursuing a goal — whether you reach it or not — will make you happier. Expecting something of yourself improves your morale. And achievement? You get to pat yourself on the back, say well done, and aim for the next higher rung.
Don’t listen to naysayers! People are fearful of change and they will resent you changing (yes, even the ones who love you). Be kind to them, but be an example to them. It’s easy and lazy to carp and criticise. Let it all roll off your back. If you feel the need to respond at all (and why should you? A withering look usually takes care of those folk) just tell them, “This makes me happy” and then ask, “What would make you happy?”
Why settle for a life that’s anything less than extraordinary? Life is a banquet; don’t settle for a nibble. Take a big bite!
If you need an inspiring movie, watch Auntie Mame or Holiday.