Ask any woman what her sexal fanasies are, and inevitably one of the items on the list is a ménage with her and two guys. Sadly, that’s often all it ever is – just a fantasy. A lot of straight guys simply can’t get down with the idea of being naked with a bro. Sure, jocks see it all in the showers. But your man and another dude naked in the bedroom? Together? Oh hell no. It’s just too “gay” seeming, or so I’ve been told. They don’t want to be so close to another dude’s junk and they sure as hell don’t want to accidentally touch him. So what’s a three-way craving gal to do? If you’re like a good friend of mine, you have the enviable fortune of meeting someone who sets your world on fire sexually and doesn’t mind taking his good buddy along for the ride.
My friend, whom I’ll call Amber, is now among the roughly 11% of women who’ve admitted to taking part in a three-way. I’ll say right up front – I’m jealous. Envious. Yes, I’m among that population of women who think it would be a pretty amazing adventure to have two guys kissing me and caressing me and licking my – whoops! That naughty little imagination of mine.
Anyhoo … I decided that since there’s a fairly high chance that I’m never gonna have the experience myself, I needed the dirt from Amber. So we met for coffee and she filled me in. I told her that, of course, I was going to have to blog about it. She said it was no big deal as long as, of course, I changed her name. I don’t blame her for that. This is not something you want your boss reading about. Or your mother.
But seriously, Amber, let’s talk. For starters, how does the idea between you and your partner even get broached? ‘Cause one big hurdle I see in the whole scenario is that many guys just don’t want to share. Guys are like cats – very territorial. If you’ve ever tried introducing a new cat into a household that already has one, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Fur can fly. In the case with men, call them fists.
Amber told me that with her the subject was broached during one of those “what are your fantasies” conversations with her boyfriend, Tyler. She told him she wanted to do it with two men and Tyler, who’s very sexually open, told her he could make it happen. Ooooh, goody! Awesome response, right? But she still didn’t think it would necessarily become reality until two weeks ago when she received a phone call from Tyler. He’d had to go on a road trip upstate and took along his good buddy, Mitch. They were about five hours away from where Amber lived. Tyler told Amber she should drive up and meet them. They could, you know, make that fantasy of hers come true. Amber hopped in her car.
So …. (me, jumping up and down) how was it?? In a word, amazing. She and Mitch clicked, they all loosened up with food and drinks beforehand, and when the party started there were no awkward moments, like wondering who goes where or does what to whom. How was that even possible? Because Tyler, as it turns out, had established rules.
He said he’s only got three: guys don’t touch each other, Mitch isn’t allowed to shoot his load in Amber’s mouth, and Mitch and Amber can only be together when Tyler’s in the room. OK, so I get one and three, but what’s the deal with the second one? Seems like that would be an expected outcome (heh) of the whole three-way deal. Tyler says it’s a personal preference, but he likes to save a little something something just for himself.
When I asked Tyler why he agreed to do it at all, he said it was to fulfill his girlfriend’s fantasy. He also loves the experience because he says “it drives the girl insane and that’s hot to watch.” But didn’t he get jeaous seeing her having sex with another guy? No, because the other guy was hand-picked by Tyler himself and it was a buddy he trusted. For that reason, as open as Tyer is, what he wouldn’t be willing to do is a repeat performance with dude #2 being solely Amber’s choice. The jealousy issue is also addresed with the whole “no screwing my buddy when I’m not in the room” thing.
Did Amber have any last minute doubts on the drive to meet them? None. Does she have any regrets after the fact? Not at all. Would she do it again? In a New York minute. She thought it was awesome. The secret sauce in the whole mix, she said, is trust. She trusts Tyler, and Tyler trusts Mitch. Without that trust, what could be a mind blowing experience is instead just awkward, uncomfortable, and a total buzz kill.
So there you have it from one who knows. The hot scenarios in those ménage books we fantasize over do happen in real life if you’re fortunate enough to have a partner willing to make your fantasy come true.
What do you think? Would you try a three-way if the situation presented itself or do you prefer the safer ground of keeping those fantasies just as they are – fantasies. Sound off in the comments below and don’t forget to follow up at Lady Smut.