Just when I’ve started thinking that if I keep everything all trimmed and tidy down below, even enduring hot wax being poured on my vajayjay and the hairs being ripped out at the strands, it’s just not enough. Not at all. In the relentless pursuit of perfect beauty, the fastest-growing cosmetic surgery in the U.K. – and one of the fastest growing in the U.S. – is labiaplasty. Yes, indeedy. Cropping off those too-long vaginal lips so we adult women can have vaginas that look like those of porn stars. Or little girls. (sigh).
In the documentary Sexy Baby, about the sexual landscape of girls in the cyber age, subjects in the film discuss their body image and why they’d want to undergo such a procedure. They talk about their perception of ideal beauty, including their own genitalia, and state that large vaginal lips are ugly, a view popularized by the adult film industry. Female porn stars, as we know, routinely undergo breasts augmentation so they can show off their big double D’s for their adoring viewing audience, i.e, guys who watch porn. They also, apparently, are getting their vaginal lips nipped and tucked through labiaplasty. The message is leaking out to women that a vaginal “rejuvenation,” as the procedure is sometimes referred to, is an overall good thing on the road toward vajayjay vavoom.
In The Perfect Vagina, a documentary about this phenomenon, reporter Lisa Rogers sets out to discover why so many women are so keen on chopping off their lady bits. It’s interesting – and depressing – to see the amount of women who genuinely feel their vaginal lips are so ugly that there’s no choice but to go under the knife and trim those lips like a vaginal haircut. Check out the video if you wish.
We do lots of things to make ourselves attractive to the opposite sex: wearing make-up, getting our hair done, watching our weight, donning nice clothes. Where does one draw the line? It’s all so complicated. You could just say it’s a personal choice. One woman’s decision to enhance her breasts, get a face lift, or have labiaplasty is hers alone and doesn’t mean others need to turn lemming-like and follow suit. But is there personal responsibility in these decisions? If a segment of the female population undergoes labiaplasty to obtain small vaginal lips, are they by extension putting the burden on the rest of us to do the same or be doomed to feel less attractive?
Some would – and do – argue that they take on the risk of cosmetic surgery for no other reason than to feel better about themselves. But is that always true? Hypothetically speaking, if a woman lived in complete isolation with absolutely no chance of encountering another human being, would she really feel bad about her supposedly too long genitalia? Would she long for the skills of a surgeon, if only for a day, to snip those lips to feel good about herself? Yeah. ‘Nuff said.
I don’t judge the women who’ve decided their lady bits need revitalizing. We are, after all, our own harshest critics. But as a romance writer I take solace in the fact that the heroines we write about, the ones with whom readers identify most, are the ones with faults and flaws. The simple truth is, perfect isn’t pretty.