Yes, Ma’am: Femdom Is Right on Time

28 Jun
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By Alexa Day

She took his face in both hands and pushed herself just far enough away to breathe.

“That night, in the storage,” she whispered. “Did I imagine that?”

He shook his head. “No.”

She rocked her pelvis against his. “Am I crazy for wanting to act on that?”

“You don’t seem crazy to me.”

“Good.” She took a step away from him and traced a line down his chest with her fingernail. “Take off your shirt.”

— from “Passing Through,” in Hero to Obey

Yes, ma’am.

Two little words that make me a little fluttery inside.

I’ve never understood the objection so many women have to being called “ma’am.” The prevalent argument is that it connotes age. I don’t get the objection to that, either. I love aging.

What makes “ma’am” superior to its substitutes in my mind? It’s one simple thing.

It’s deference. In a world of catcalling, mansplaining, and twee pet names, deference appeals to me a great deal. That’s a big part of the reason femdom-themed stories are working for me right now.

But the popular wisdom suggests that romance readers are a little uncomfortable with femdom stories. Why? Isn’t the world more than ready for some femdom fantasy?

Women are under such tremendous pressure, even now, to be nice to everyone. I hear women apologizing for asking for the things they want. They don’t want to be selfish. I read about women trying to figure out how to get people who live with them to share in the housework. I think at one point there was some crazy system that encouraged rewarding spouses for doing household chores. I see women who seem confused about the boundary between giving of themselves and depleting their own resources.

All the while, I see the way our world treats women who are undeniably in charge at home and at work. The number one criticism? They’re unfeminine. And make no mistake: women are quick to jump on another woman who seems to be on top of things.

Femdom is not a cure-all, but a healthy dose of it can solve a lot of problems. Check it out.

1. In the world of femdom, women don’t have to keep asking for things. No more bargaining. No more constant reminders. Women need not even say please. They ask for what they want (actually, as you see at the beginning of the post, the heroine of “Passing Through” doesn’t ask so much as command), and then they either get what they want, or they deliver a consequence. It’s tough to say which is more refreshing. Is it the knowledge that women need not ask more than once, or the knowledge that their partners are listening?

2. In this world, giving is limited only by our capacity to receive. Megan Hart is more eloquent on this point than I am. In Beg for It, heroine Corinne remembers her boy, Reese, like this: “Other men might feign a brief interest in massaging away the pain, but only so far as it meant them eventually getting in her pants. Her boy rubbed her feet until they no longer hurt, even if they both knew she didn’t plan on fucking him. … Other men had claimed they wanted to please her, and some of them had tried, but in the end it had always come down to them giving her what she wanted as long as it was also what they wanted to give her. Her boy had taken care of her needs before his own, no matter what.” That works for me, friends.

3. Femdom calls on a different reservoir of male strength. In my story, the hero, Noah, finds that he enjoys the challenge of obeying Gigi, both in and out of bed. Delaying gratification and testing the limits of his mind and body — submitting to Gigi requires him to be stronger than himself. The male submissive is in no way diminished by his service to his Domme. If anything, submission makes him stronger.

It’s been said that the female submissive in romance is so popular because submission gives her the freedom, the permission to explore desires she would hesitate to approach without direction. The dominant woman in romance, speaking very generally, isn’t looking for the same permission. She’s comfortable with her desires and with the prospect of exploring them. She just needs the right partner to make that journey with her.

Is romance ready for femdom? Well, as we established last week, femdom has been here for a while. But I think this is an excellent time for it. I love to see a take-charge heroine drive her own sexual journey, and I’m all about seeing her partner treating her with the deference reserved for royalty. Women on top deserve a happy ending, too.

My novella, “Passing Through,” releases today, in the great big box set, Hero to Obey. You’ll find my story alongside 21 other novellas featuring super hot military heroes and lots of kinky sexytimes. I’ve got an excerpt up for your approval, but here are a few words about what you’re getting into.

The summer’s brought two surprises to bar owner Gigi Deane: the former Army Ranger she hired is the perfect barback, and he takes orders in bed as well as he does on the job. Noah Monroe’s told her that he’s just passing through, but as the seasons change, can she convince him to make their summer thing a little more permanent?

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2 Responses to “Yes, Ma’am: Femdom Is Right on Time”

  1. Madeline Iva June 28, 2016 at 10:53 am #

    I’ve been reading through HERO TO OBEY and it’s interesting to note that your story and many others takes place on/near the water. The wetness of these stories is quite enjoyable! 🙂

    I admit to being one of those readers that gives the side eye to fem dom. But done the right way IMHO it’s every bit as sexy as other kinds of D/s and BDSM. What is that right way? Gonna talk about that on Thursday.

    Like

    • Alexa Day June 29, 2016 at 6:15 pm #

      Lol. Three cheers for wet stories! Can’t wait to see your post tomorrow. 🙂

      Like

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