Heading Toward Nirvana – The Art of the BJ
I love the way he moves his hips, the sounds that he makes, the way his body tightens up and I know to take it down a notch and finally when his body jerks and I feel all that cum fill my mouth and hit the back of my throat. It’s awesome. – Anonymous from Datehookup.com
I recently came across a fascinating post blogger Jill Hamilton wrote last year about giving blow jobs that – for her – bring her as close as possible to a religious experience. Jill’s article also included a piece of beautiful writing from Samantha Gillison who affirms that sex puts her on a path to the divine. Heavens! Clearly these ladies are having some mind-altering, sweaty-ass, beautifully filthy sex to which we all can aspire. So there’s that. But what I found myself fixated on was Gillison’s discovery on the joys of giving head, something she’d once viewed with trepidation – was she doing it right? was he enjoying it? – to something she now calls “profound, dirty pleasure.” Profound, dirty pleasure? Sign me up!
I’ll admit, I’m in complete agreement with Gillison. Yet when I decided to poke around the web to see what other women are saying about “heading” down south on their men, the results were mixed. Responses took a pretty hard line between the “love it” and “hate it” camps. Far less common were those who think it’s just “OK.” The quote I’ve highlighted above clearly comes from someone in the “love it” group of gals, and echoes the sentiment of fellow BJ devotees. When asked what they liked about it, much of what I came across from women went this like: “It’s hot to see your partner so turned on.” “A confidence builder when you know you’re rocking someone’s world.” “Gives me a sense of power.” “I know he loves it, so I love it, too.” Variants of that last comments were by far what I saw the most. In addition, some women cited love of their man’s smell and his taste, although views on the taste were, to no surprise, a bit of a mixed bag. (btw, for purposes of this post I’m tabling the whole “swallow or spit” discussion since I’ve covered it separately here).
Curiously, something I thought I’d see a lot of conversation on but didn’t is the whole issue surrounding trust and how hot it is when he surrenders it to you. Think about it. We all know the one physical advantage women have over men is our lack of balls. We gals face no danger of being felled to the ground with a single swift kick to the groin. But slam a heel into a guy’s testicles and he’s going down like a ton of bricks, collapsing into a fetal position and probably upchucking whatever he had for lunch. Yet he’s willing to take that chance when you give him head, dropping trou and literally exposing himself, being at his most vulnerable. It’s the ultimate trust, and hot damn is it ever a turn on. The deep connection, the shared experience…as one woman wrote in a chatroom: “It’s quite a turn on to be that intimate.”
Yet for all the warm and fuzzy, feel-good experiences of giving head, there are some women who just
can’t won’t do it. Period. No matter how much they love their partner, no matter how much he may want it, they’re just not giving in. Of course, there are men of the same mindset as well, those for whom eating pussy is as appealing as eating poo. But to those oral avoiders I share this reminder: ’tis better to give than receive. Being the supplier of such intense, physical pleasure, unmatched by pretty much anything else – well, who wouldn’t want to? Sure, you can ride his pony until he howls to the moon, but intercourse is a different experience from oral. Don’t ya think?
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