…AS TOLD TO LADY SMUT BY SASHA SNOW
SASHA SNOW: I’ve been teaching exotic dance for the last seven or so years in a professional dance studio with curtains drawn, and the doors locked. The idea behind these classes is to help ordinary women reclaim a part of themselves they often lose to years of child-rearing, stale marriages, and general malaise from living in the ordinary world. I help them reclaim their sensual side to use however they see fit. One of the most popular offerings are lap dance workshops.
In the ninety minute workshop, you learn how to move seductively and give your partner a semi-choreographed dance on and around him while he’s sitting in a chair or on a couch. In the last few years, however, I made up a bed dance workshop. If you can seduce a man with dance and movement while he’s sitting in a chair, imagine what you can do with him lying in a bed.
This idea isn’t new. Bed dance has long been a staple in strip clubs. Female strippers charge big money to give a man a dance in a bed in the back room. But you can give your partner one at home.
LADY SMUT: There are good reasons to bring some movement and action into your bedroom.
“In fact, a recent science article suggests that instead of lying still in bed, women are actually much more aroused by moving around. University of Texas Dr. Cindy Meston reported this to the BBC:
‘For years we were told, ‘Have a bubble bath, calm down, listen to relaxing music, do deep breathing exercises, chill out before sex,” she says.
‘But my research shows the opposite, that you actually want to get women in an active state. So, you can run around the block with your partner and get them to chase you around the block, or watch a scary movie together, ride a rollercoaster together, even a good comedy act. If you really get laughing, you’re going to have a sympathetic activation response.’
Meston is talking about the sympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for subconscious muscle contractions that get us ready for the flight or fight mode, like heart rate and blood pressure. She has found that if this system is activated before sex it will help women respond more intensely and more quickly.
It’s quite the opposite for men.”
In other words, git up and dance! Sasha Snow has some helpful tips to offer.
TIPS FOR TRYING OUT A BED DANCE AT HOME:
Set some rules. You need to do this so it doesn’t delve into sex right away:
- no heels
- no touching (this is a fun one to play with–how close can you get?)
- no talking, no laughing
- BE SAFE — hang onto the head board or hang onto the wall.
- Move however feels good to you.
- Put on some music you like — not what he likes — what you like. (Cause he’s not really listening to the music.)
- Spice it up! Remember — practice makes perfect.
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