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Sexy Saturday Round-Up

24 Jun

By Elizabeth Shore

It’s summer solstice time! Long days, frozen drinks, and all things hot: the weather, the beaches, and the sizzlin’ summer fun! Too hot in your neck of the woods to be outside? Worry not. Sophia Coppolla’s historical thriller The Beguiled opens this weekend. Sexual tension, dangerous rivalries, Colin Farrell! It’s a recipe tailor-made for savvy Lady Smutters who prefer their heat coming from the inside. 😉 Oh, and we’ve got a round-up of some pretty awesome clips from this past week, as well. So grab a frozen margarita or three and enjoy.

From Madeline:

Love your period? This woman does.

Watching porn: “jizz journalist” Lynsey G. deconstructs the medium and its global fanfare

An Oral History of Quentin Tarantino As Told To Me By Men I’ve Dated

Got relationship woes? Relationship anxiety may be to blame.

Abstinence for your feminist-type.

Jessica Chastain shudders over the representation of women at Cannes

From Elizabeth Shore:

Grab a book, hit the sand! And if you’re wondering what to read, here are some picks for best summer beach reads.

Here’s something you may not have seen coming: John McEnroe says Andy Warhol ruined his sex life.

Here’s some messed up s**t: in North Carolina, no doesn’t mean no.

Feel like stalking your ex? There’s an app for that. Thanks, Snapchat.

It’s Pride month, everyone! In celebration, here’s what kind of gay porn is searched for, state by state.

 

 

 

 

Sexy Saturday Round Up

17 Jun

By Elizabeth Shore

Hey, Sexy Readers! We’re halfway through the lovely month of June – Pride month, Rose month, African-American music appreciation month, and dairy month. To top it off, next week it’s officially summer! So as we streak toward the halfway point of the year, celebrate June by grabbing a pint of rocky road, chilling out to some Coltrane, and diving into the array of fun links we prowled through the web to find for you this week. Oh, and don’t forget to give dad a great big Dad’s Day hug.

Where do old toilets go to die? Why, New York City, of course – reincarnated to an oyster reef.

And the #1 key to selling more books is…

Seeing a new guy? Want to have sex with him? 4 questions to ask yourself before sharing your goods.

Do you have rhythm? Tap to the beat on this website and it’ll let you know – and even give you a score. Weirdly addictive…

Think you know what turns him on? Think again.

Why you must see the baddest badass female to grace the silver screen – Wonder Woman.

People searching for lesbian porn often have a hard time spelling it.

Searching for that most blissful of orgasms – the “blended” kind? Hand him this cheat sheet and he’ll get you to the promised land.

10 tips for first-timers having girl-on-girl sex. Tip: cut your nails!

Original and a bit wacky but a lot of fun Father’s Day gifts.

Dairy month definitely means ice cream. Go homemade with these 40+ super easy recipes.

Talking sex robots with heated genitals are about to become a thing.

Give him a Father’s Day gift for the ages – a blow job that’ll blow his mind. Here’s how.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sexy Saturday Round Up

10 Jun

By Elizbeth Shore

It’s the weekend! If you’re in the northeast as we Lady Smutters are, you can also get jazzed about the fact that it’s also finally warm. Beach weather, baby! And what goes better with the beach than some good beach reads. You want ’em? We got ’em. So kick off the flip flops, dig your toes in the sand, and settle in with some hot Lady Smut reads. Happy summer, everyone!

How long should sex last? Exactly this long.

Wild weekend getaway. Checking out men thrusting their torsos – with your mom!

Bill Cosby feared being called a “dirty old man.” Ah, Bill? Got news for you, buddy. You ARE!

Doing a little shopping this weekend? Check out this guide to the best jeans for women.

The nude selfie. Feminist stance or a case for slut shaming?

The hottest romance book covers featuring naked hot men. Anyone got a problem with that? We didn’t think so.

What do people in Ireland love besides a pint o’ Guinness and singing sad songs? Pubic sex!

Did you know that yesterday was National Sex Day? No? Well, don’t worry. You can still celebrate this weekend – even if you’re single.

Why are you telling a perfect stranger personal things about yourself? Cause you’re sexually excited by him, that’s why.

What Japanese men do when women are skeeved out by their nipples.

 

 

 

 

 

Sexy Saturday Round Up

3 Jun

By Elizabeth Shore

Happy June! It’s National Dairy Month, Rose Month, and Gay Pride Appreciation Month. As we make our way toward the end of 2017’s first half, grab an ice cream, smell the flowers, and show some love to our LGBT brothers and sisters. And while you’re thinking happy thoughts with your dessert, your roses, and your heart swelling with LGBT pride, Lady Smut adds to the fun with our weekly roundup of great reading. I’ll take a mint chip on a waffle cone. Make it a double. 😉

Pull up a chair, ladies! And get some awesome oral lovin’ while you’re at it.

She’s Wonder-ful! How model and actress Gal Gadot got her ass-kickin’ body in jaw-dropping shape for her starring role in Wonder Woman.

A dating app says, “no pictures, please.” You have to actually get to know one another first.

Are you watching American Gods? Are you utterly confused? Author Neil Gaiman describes what the heck it’s all about.

You mean people other than English women with royal blood wear hats? They do indeed – and the official hat maker of the Kentucky derby shares her secrets.

Although we’ve technically missed National Doughnut Day (it was yesterday, y’all), fear not. Oreo has just released their latest flavor – jelly doughnut Oreos.

Thinking aboug becoming a Playboy Playmate? Think again – it’s not all the fun it’s cracked up to be.

Something else to worry about – your vagina might be depressed.

Give some love to the back door. Why butt plugs are the toy you shouldn’t forget.

In a baking mood? How about salted chocolate and almond butter cookies. Here’s the recipe.

 

 

 

 

 

Sexy Saturday Round Up

27 May

By Elizabeth Shore

Hey Sexies! Happy long weekend. It’s time to pull out the grill, shake out the blanket, and get the summer started. While you’re enjoying the extra day off from the daily grind – and remembering to thank our brave men and women for their service – we’ve got some delicious reading to recommend. So if you happen to be in the northeast where the forecast is less-than-summery this weekend, at least you can still enjoy the heat. 😉

You know how you assumed that the Dirty Dancing remake was going to be bad? Honey, that was going easy on it.

We’ve almost reached the end of May, which means the end of Masturbation Month 2017. Send it out with a bang – or a slap – by indulging in mutual masturbation.

Fidget spinner porn. Yeah, it’s now a thing.

Do you want to give your man the best, most mind-blowing intense orgasm on the planet? According to Mr. Racy, try milking his prostate.

Who better than Bon Appétit to give us 30 simple Memorial Day weekend grilling recipes.

30 songs of summer 2017 that you won’t be able to get out of your head. You’ve been warned.

Like ’em or loathe ’em, suddenly everyone is talking about male rompers. Or romphims, as some say.

Winter is coming, at least for some of them. The top 7 candidates likely to meet their maker in Game of Thrones upcoming season 7.

Hey guys, got ED? Skip the Viagra, just get a Botox injection.

Oddly fascinating. Forensic scientists solving murders by using bugs.

Horror stories from those in the XXX biz.

From Thien-Kim

Shameless plug: I have a brand new author Facebook page. Will you give it a like?

Have you ever tried cannabis lube? I’m fascinated after reading this review.

Add these panty-melting beach reads to your ereader for the long holiday weekend.

These fairy and mermaid fishnets would add another dimension to your role play. Do you hear the sirens calling?

Are you #TeamBeard or #TeamClean? According to science, women find scruffy men more attractive.

May is almost over. Have you celebrated National Masturbation Month yet?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On The Hunt For Ethical Porn

17 May

By Elizabeth Shore

Do you read Dan Savage? Does anyone not read Dan Savage? He’s been writing his internationally syndicated sex-advice column, Savage Love, since 2002. Writers to Dan’s column seek advice on everything from relationships to whether dogs should be allowed in the room during naughty time, and everything in between.

If you’re not reading Dan’s column, I’d suggest re-thinking that strategy. It’s cool. You learn stuff. For example, I now know all about Chaturbate. For those who, like me until a few days ago, weren’t hip to it, here’s the deal. Chaturbate is a sex webcam site where viewers can watch males, females, couples, or transgender folks do decadent naughty things. You can watch for free but pay in the form of tips to have certain sex acts performed by those whose cameras you’re tuned in to. Ooooh, kinky!

The reason the topic came up in a Savage Love column is because a reader wanted Dan’s opinion on whether he thinks Chaturbate is ethical. The reader’s motivation behind asking the question was because he felt as if webcam sex is “one of the safest ways for girls to do sex work.” Yet, admittedly, he wasn’t sure. He enjoys his role as voyeur but wants to do “as little harm as possible.” Enter, Dan Savage.

Dan responded by saying that in his opinion, Chaturbate seems A-OK. Good with the ethics. According to the owners of the site, as posted in Dan’s response, “The ones who are there to make money don’t work “for” Chaturbate, they work on it. When they do work on CB, although they are independent, they must agree to comply with legal documentation requirements and they must agree to act ethically and legally as set forth in our terms.”

Note to those out there seeking money-making opportunities: Chaturbate performers can make decent cash. If they promote themselves and build up a fan base, the tips can actually translate into a way to make a living. A wild way, to be sure, and one I’m not certain I’d do, but that’s because I’m a corporate sludge and have to be prim and proper in the daytime world. Someone grabbing a screen shot of me doing something blissfully sinful could splash it all over the virtual world and there goes the end of Corporate Elizabeth. But I digress…

Anyhoo, Dan’s answer on the ethics question springboarded onto another intriguing conundrum. More and more people are apparently wanting their porn to be not only hot, but ethical. (And here some folks thought porn viewers are primarily dirty – and unscrupulous – old men. Not so!) To that end, a woman recently asked him where one goes to find feminist porn. Hmmmm. Feminist…porn? It seems as glaring an oxymoron as truthful politician. Does such a thing exist? Well, of course it does. And women are watching it. According to Pornhub, women now make up one-quarter of their global audience. Since there are 64,000,000 people visiting Pornhub on any given day, that’s a lotta women watching a lotta porn.

Dan didn’t cite any specific places to go to fulfill one’s feminist porn desires, but he did point out something obvious but worth repeating: you get what you pay for. It’s easy enough to find ethical, feminist porn (Google is a wondrous tool), but be prepared to pay for it, and be OK doing so. Being an ethically responsible porn consumer, writes Dan, means this: “Paying for porn downloads helps finance projects and create careers for filmmakers and performers we like (and get off to). If you gets all your porn from Tumblr and/or the various tubes, you forfeit your right to complain about the porn that’s out there. Buy the kind of porn you like and more of the porn you like will be made.”

Ethical and feminist. A different way to think about porn. Kind of wild. Speaking of, this week we’re celebrating our own Kiersten Hallie Krum’s finalist nomination for the RONE awards for her book, Wild on the Rocks. We’d love it if you showed her a bit of wild love and hopped on over here to cast your vote for her, and then for only $.99, go ahead and score a copy to see what all the fuss is about.

To go along with Kiersten’s fabulous book, we’ve got a scavenger hunt going on here at Lady Smut. Collect our various wild confessions in our posts this week for a chance to win $10 in spending cash over at Amazon.

Elizabeth Shore writes both contemporary and historical erotic romance. Her newest book is an erotic historical novella, Desire Rising, from The Wild Rose Press. Other releases include Hot Bayou Nights and The Lady Smut Book of Dark Desires

 

 

 

Decent Acting, Gorgeous People, And BDSM! So Why Didn’t Anyone Watch Submission?

10 May

By Elizabeth Shore

A few days ago I found myself without anything to do. Well, technically, there’s always s**t to do, but nothing I felt like tackling. The solution? Cruise my way down couch jockey street, flipping channels until I landed on some mind-numbing goodness for a few hours of escape. Drink in one hand, remote in the other, I found Submission, a 6-episode series that aired last year on Showtime. Wait…last year?! Why hadn’t I heard of it? Admittedly, I’m not always hip to the latest on TV, but still. This show was right up my erotic romance alley and yet until recently had gone undiscovered.

Naturally, I binge-watched all six episodes. Not terribly impressive since they were each like 28 minutes long. Yet once I finished watching I really was perplexed about why no one’s been talking about this show. Let’s run down the list of attractions: beautiful actors (standard fare for TV shows, but still); not bad plotline, decent writing, money from Showtime. Oh, and sex. Lots and lots and lots of sex! BDSM, F/F, regular M/F, even ménage. And it was hot, too. A scene between one of the series’ main characters and an impromptu meet-up in the ladies’ room had me coming back ’round for a second viewing. De-lish!

It’s not surprising that the sex scenes are a major focus of the series. Its two creators, Jacky St. James and Paul Fishbein, have well-established creds in the adult video world. Fishbein, in fact, is the former CEO of Adult Video News and creator of the AVN awards show. So on paper it seems like this series would work. It’s even got parallels to 50 Shades. But I don’t know a single person who’s seen it and the show’s outlook for a season 2 is shaky, to put it mildly.

Here’s the plot: sexually frustrated Ashley ditches her boring boyfriend and decides to roommate with an old friend, Jules. Jules has an additional roomie, Dylan, who’s night and day different from Ashley. Dylan’s a sexually open, do-it-with-anyone kinda gal. She’s also a submissive. When Ashley meets Dylan’s master, Elliott, and becomes the object of his desire, giving Dylan the boot, things get interesting indeed. Nothing like a pissed-off subbie out for revenge. Dylan, as it turns out, knows something about Elliott that he’d rather keep secret. So unless Ashley does exactly what Dylan wants, Elliott’s in a heap o’ trouble. And naturally, adding fuel to Elliott’s fire, by this time he and Ashley are in love. Conflict abounds! Late-night smutty TV at its best. Oh, and then there’s the sex. Did I mention that?

I looked up deets on the show on IMDB and wasn’t exactly shocked to learn that the character of Dylan is played by former adult video star, Raylin Joy, whose stage name is Skin Diamond. Her character is the most sexually daring of the bunch. But here’s the interesting thing about the actress. She was born in the U.S. but lived most of her adolescent life in the U.K. She studied Dramatic Arts and her favorite subjects were ancient Greek theater and Shakespeare. For her acting final exam she played Antigone in the Sophocles play. With a theater geek background, why porn? She’s quoted as saying, “as an independent and highly sexual woman, taking charge of my own personal sexual growth in this manner was immensely empowering.”

Certainly comparisons can be drawn between Ms. Joy’s statement about her acting and why some of us choose to read and write erotic romance. There is indeed something personally empowering in creating sexually open characters and having them delve into all kinds of hot wickedness, wherever our naughty little minds choose to take them.

I personally think Showtime dropped the ball by not advertising the dang series. No one’s gonna watch if they don’t know the show exists, amiright?! Who knows if Submission will go beyond a single season, but if you want to see it for yourself, it’s streaming on demand. So if you’re sitting around with nothing to do, now you’ve got some options. 😉

Elizabeth Shore writes both contemporary and historical erotic romance. Her newest book is an erotic historical novella, Desire Rising, from The Wild Rose Press. Other releases include Hot Bayou Nights and The Lady Smut Book of Dark Desires

The end of an awful marriage might be the beginning of something smoking hot. Click to buy.

 

 

 

 

 

The Erotic Thriller Everyone Hates

26 Apr

The Great Divider. Bestselling erotic thriller Maestra.

By Elizabeth Shore

Last Christmas I was in the Helsinki airport awaiting a return flight to New York when I realized I didn’t have enough to read. Panic ensued. Facing an 8+ hour flight without backup material wasn’t in my deck of cards. No siree. With only minutes to spare, I made a beeline for the English-language section of the airport bookstore. I scanned the thriller section faster than a Google search and landed on Maestra by L.S. Hilton. I’d not heard of either the author or the book, but “The International Phenomenon” and “Gripping Thriller” blurbs on the front were enough for me. Book in hand, I boarded my flight.

As it turns out, I never did start the book then. Who knows why. Maybe I had more left of my book in progress than I remembered. Or maybe I actually fell asleep on the flight. Whatever the case, I finally read Maestra a couple of weeks ago. And once I’d started, I was hooked.

To begin with, author L.S. Hilton is a heck of a good writer. “Sharp and extremely well written,” says The Daily Mail. “Hilton can both actually write and plot,” exclaims the BBC. But it was the story itself with its unpredictable heroine Judith Rashleigh that made Maestra un-put-downable. This book took me on a fun sexy wild ride, one I absolutely did not see coming. Heroine Judith did a 180 on me, turning out to be very different from how she first appears. And my oh my did the sex scenes ever sizzle. Huh, thought I. Why have I not heard of this book? And who’s this L.S. Hilton?

Turns out, Ms. Hilton comes with seriously respectable creds. She’s a historian and biographer, graduating from Oxford with a degree in English before studying art history in both France and Italy. She’s written gobs of books on royal monarchs, her latest being The Stolen Queen, set in medieval Europe. Scores of respected magazines have published articles by her, including The Daily Telegraph, The Evening Standard, Vogue, Elle, The Royal Academy Magazine, and a British cultural and political affairs magazine called Standpoint. So what’s up with the foray into the world of erotic thrillers? Hilton says blame it on her agent. He’s the one who planted the idea.

Apparently that agent gives good advice. Maestra is the first in a planned trilogy. Hilton has received tons of rave reviews from around the globe. She got a huge movie deal. The second book of the series, Domina, just came out this month (in the U.K., although Americans have to wait until July). But everything’s not all roses and sunshine. If you check out the reviews on Amazon they’re more mixed across the board than I’ve ever seen for a single book. Lots of people love it. Lots of people despise it. The way it has divided both critics and readers makes Trump look like a dilettante. As Lisa Hilton herself stated in a Guardian interview, “Everyone hated my book. My agent hated it, and my publisher hated it, and pretty much everyone I showed it to hated it. Even now that Maestra has been sold in 42 countries and garnered a film deal, it still seems to make a lot of readers furious.”

Author L.S. Hilton

Before her book became the bestselling erotic thriller everyone hates, it had to get published. Hilton shopped it to scores of publishers, all of whom passed. It was rejected so many times she started considering self-publishing. She applied for a teaching position. Then the magic happened. She finally got signed, not just for one book but three. One day in the morning, Hilton received a letter that she wasn’t even going to be granted an interview for the teaching position she’d applied for. That same afternoon, she received word that film rights for Maestra had sold for seven figures. Hilton say in an interview in The Telegraph that when she heard the news, “I was so stunned I thew up.”

The critical reviews are by and large nothing short of raving. Readers are less impressed. The Washington Post review may have said it best: “Maestra will be one of this year’s most talked-about novels.” People are talking, all right, though not in the way the Post envisioned. While Publishers’ Weekly gives it a starred review and Booklist raves that it’s “edgy, decadent, erotic, and irresistible,” the latest reader reviewer on Amazon calls Maestra “one of the biggest literary disappointments I have ever had.” Ouch.

Books are so much like music or food or art or anything else on the planet where subjectivity is the name of the game. I personally thought Maestra was a good-time romp in the world of erotic thrillers, and Domina is immediately added to my TBR pile. One can’t help but draw comparisons between this book and Fifty Shades. Both authors even use two initials for their first name! But for all the naysayers who scoff at this book, plenty of writers would be more than happy to take a bath in negative reviews in exchange for an L.S. Hilton moment in the sun.

Going to RT? So are we! Join LadySmut bloggers at the RT Booklovers Convention May 3-7, especially at our super special reader event – Never Have You Ever, Ever, Ever. Win crowns, fetish toys, books and more! Goodybags to first 100 people in line! Wednesday, May 3 at 1:30.

Elizabeth Shore writes both contemporary and historical erotic romance. Her newest book is an erotic historical novella, Desire Rising, from The Wild Rose Press. Other releases include Hot Bayou Nights and The Lady Smut Book of Dark Desires

 

 

 

No Swinging, Please, We’re Jewish

19 Apr

By Elizabeth Shore

It’s pretty damn fun to be decadently naughty, isn’t it? To luxuriate in clandestine fantasies and hedonistic playtime that might make your friends utter a collective gasp if they knew you did such things. To have a secret, bad-girl self can be heady indeed, which of course is all part of the draw.

But what if indulging in your fantasies could result in total banishment from the life you know if you were ever discovered? What if you could lose your children, your emotional and financial support system, your house, your friends, your job, your family. Would you still risk all to do what you want to do? Be who you want to be? Such is the question that “Monica” and “James,” members of the Ultra-Orthodox Satmar Jewish sect, had to answer for themselves. ‘Cause the thing is, Monica and James are die-hard swingers.

An article in the New York Post last month profiled their story. By all outward appearances, they’re a conservative, late 30’s Ultra-Orthodox Jewish couple living rule-abiding lives and raising rule-abiding children in strict accordance with their faith. But when the lights go down the wigs and yarmulkes come off. James and Monica might have a delicious little ménage planned, or they might each have dates and sexy time with other people. Doesn’t matter to them. They love to swing and swing they do – keeping it all as top secret as Area 51.

Their clandestine lifestyle is not without risk. As they admit in the article, the consequences of discovery would be dire, including total banishment from their religion and community. Yet not only do they embrace their open-marriage, swinging lifestyle, but they took the risk a step further in order to share their story with the New York Post. As it turns out, Monica and James are skeptics about their faith. Outwardly, they maintain appearances to hold on to their network of friends and family. Privately, they have doubts and they want other Hasidic couples who may be struggling in the same way to know they’re not alone.

Looking at Monica and James’ situation from the outside, one might wonder why they don’t just ditch their religious lifestyle. They no longer believe in the faith, they’re hideously restricted by rules, they lead double lives and have to lie to friends, family, and their kids in order to do what they want. Why not bid it all a big fat sayonara and move on? Well, as one can obviously guess, it’s not that easy. Within the confines of a strict religious sect comes a loss of individuality. One’s choices are based on teachings and rules versus free will, and how life operates outside of the sect isn’t necessarily familiar. An interesting article in The Guardian about defectors who leave those strict communities details their struggles to adjust.

For the Monicas and James’s in this world, leaving what they know isn’t an option, so they accept the fact that they have to slink around like teenagers breaking curfew. For them the risk is worth it, not only for the sexual freedom but the emotional fulfillment as well. Monica has to develop some sort of emotional connection before taking on a prospective lover, which is A-OK by James. As he says, “It’s been beautiful to watch Monica fall in love with someone else.”

It seems to me that exploring a situation like this would be a hell of a great romance. It’s got all the ingredients of a page-turning best seller: cloak-and-dagger double life, big risk, possible disastrous consequences, and of course, steaming hot sex. Yum-o! I see book plots galore! Jewish heros and heroines are practically non-existent in romance. Hey…does anyone hear knocking? I think opportunity might be at the door.

And speaking of opportunity…Join LadySmut bloggers at the RT Booklovers Convention May 3-7, especially at our super special reader event – Never Have You Ever, Ever, Ever. Win crowns, fetish toys, books and more! Goodybags to first 100 people in line! Wednesday, May 3 at 1:30.

 

Elizabeth Shore writes both contemporary and historical erotic romance. Her newest book is an erotic historical novella, Desire Rising, from The Wild Rose Press. Other releases include Hot Bayou Nights and The Lady Smut Book of Dark Desires

 

 

 

Cross-Dressing Dudes Getting In Touch With Their Feminine Side

29 Mar

By Elizabeth Shore

Let’s say you’re a guy, perfectly comfortable in your guyhood. You rock a pair of jeans and a t-shirt with the best of them, you love a good bicep and pec workout, and Mr. Johnson definitely pays attention to a beautiful woman. But in addition to your typical male tendencies, you also have a hankering to paint your toenails pink, strap on a pair of 4-inch stilettos and slink around in a pretty dress. What’s a cross-dressing guy to do? How can he learn to walk in heels, properly apply make-up and embrace his feminine self? Fear not – help is available. Introducing Miss Vera.

“We live in a time where gender is an option.” So says Veronica Vera, a.k.a. “Miss Vera,” founder and dean of Miss Vera’s Finishing School For Boys Who Want To Be Girls. Founded 25 years ago in New York City, Miss Vera and her fellow “deans” – each of whom has a particular specialty – are an oasis of help for cross-dressing men. Becoming a student at this modern-day finishing school means a guy can learn how to moderate his voice to achieve a more feminine pitch, properly style his hair and/or wig, strut his stuff no matter how high the heel, and apply make-up to transform and bring out his inner diva.

Miss Vera’s ultimate goal, according to a video on her website, is to “increase the awareness of your options as a human.” In other words, we’re not relegated to living strictly as our biological birth would dictate. Instead, we can be ourselves with whatever gender we identify. “Average Joe” during the day, “fabulous Joanne” after hours. No need to struggle over how to make it happen. Miss Vera’s academy will show you the way.

Aside from achieving the desired physical look, the finishing school also offers courses that bring the closeted cross-dresser to the streets. How to shop, dine, even feel comfortable using the ladies’ room are all in the offering. It’s not just about looking and acting the part. Miss Vera’s teaches her eager students how to “be” a lady.

When musing on being a crossdresser, one straight, cross-dressing guy wrote in a blog post on cracked.com, “What most of us want more than anything is validation of our femininity.” Miss Vera’s Finishing School seems to understand that well, as their motto is “cherchez la femme,” or “look for the woman.” The goal, as stated on the website, is to “allow your femmeself to open you up to the world, not isolate you from it.”

All this gender acceptance is cool, but what if you’re the spouse or significant other of a cross-dressing guy and are struggling to understand and be supportive? Working with couples is more common than ever before at Miss Vera’s. Being the partner of a cross-dresser herself has helped her develop deeper insights into the psychological and emotional challenges of similarly situated couples. In consultation with them, she’s discussed topics such as role-playing, communication, children, and bisexuality.

It’s interesting to note that the straight guy in the cracked.com article made sure to point out that his interest in cross-dressing isn’t at all a sex-based need. As he says, “It’s a look, not a fetish. … It also took quite awhile to come to an understanding that dressing to feel sexy didn’t make dressing sexual.”  He’s not bisexual; it’s not a kink thing. The dude just wants to bring out his sexy side by looking and dressing like a gal.

Despite today’s broader proclivity toward identity acceptance, finding out your guy fancies wearing lacy panties can be a couple crusher for many. Certainly within our romance book world, gender benders are primarily women dressing as men, and usually in historicals where a woman is trying to do something available only to the guys. To be sure, a romance with a bad boy alpha male, the leader of a motorcycle gang, for example, would be a hard sell if the reader learns that the dude likes wearing fishnets beneath his jeans.

But perhaps that’s an assumption. What do you think? Does a cross-dressing straight guy a believable hero make? Sound off in the comments. And if you’ve got a good cross-dressing romance to recommend, let us know that, too. Here at Lady Smut, we’re never at cross purposes in talking about romance.

Elizabeth Shore writes both contemporary and historical erotic romance. Her newest book is an erotic historical novella, Desire Rising, from The Wild Rose Press. Other releases include Hot Bayou Nights and The Lady Smut Book of Dark Desires

 

 

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